16 days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence.
The DOVE committee supports 16 days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence.
Delta Opposes Violence Everywhere Coordinating Committee (D.O.V.E)
December 6 th is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against
Women. On this day in 1989, 14 women at Montreal’s École Polytechnique were
murdered simply for being women.
The goal of DOVE is to increase public awareness surrounding violence in relationships and its management committee works to reduce gaps in services that may exist in the Delta area.
The Delta Opposes Violence Everywhere Committee (DOVE) is made up of members from community service agencies within Delta, whose focus is the prevention of relationship violence through education.
For information about DOVE upcoming events, call Jill Colley 604.940.5019 or Janice Hamel 604 723 9505.
|A Healthy Relationship||An Unhealthy Relationship||An Abusive Relationship|
You talk openly about problems without shouting or yelling. You listen to one another, and are willing to compromise.
Problems are not discussed calmly, or not talked about at all. You don't listen to each other or try to compromise.
During disagreement there is screaming, swearing, or threatening, or these things happen even when there is no argument.
You value each other as you are. You treat each other in a way that demonstrates the high esteem you hold for one another.
One or both parties are inconsiderate toward the other.
|Is disrespectful through abuse
A partner intentionally and continuously disregards your feelings and physical safety.
You both trust each other completely
There is suspicion that your partner is doing things behind your back.
|Falsely accuses the other of flirting and cheating
A partner suspects flirting or cheating of often harming their partner verbally or physically as a result.
You are both honest with each other but can still choose to keep certain things private.
One or both partners lie to each other and/or family and friends to make the other look bad.
|Doesn't take responsibilities for the abuse
The violent or verbally abusive partner denies or minimizes their actions. They try to blame the other for the harm they are doing.
You make decisions together and you hold each other to similar standards
|Trying to take control
One or both partners sees their desires or decisions as more important.
|Controls the other partner
There is no equality in the relationship. What one partner says goes
|Enjoy personal space
You both enjoy spending time apart and respect when one of you voices a need for space.
|Feeling smothered or forgetting to spend time with others
So much time spent together that one partner feels uncomfortable or is isolated from family.
|Isolates the other partner
The other partner is socially isolated from family and friends.
|Make consensual sexual decisions
You talk openly about sexual decisions together and both consent to sexual activity.
|Pressuring the other into sexual activity or ignoring consequences
One partner is trying to convince the other that the relationship should become more sexual.
|Forces sexual activity
Threats and violence are used prior to or during sexual activity.
- Domestic Violence Helpline
- DOVE pamphlet (About DOVE, recognizing relationship violence and where to get help)
- Women’s Resource Card (English)
- Women’s Resource Card (Punjabi)
- Safety Plan 1 – When Leaving Abusive Situation
- Safety Plan 2 – When Staying in an Abusive Situation
- You Deserve a Healthy Relationship
- Tips When Suspecting Domestic Violence
- Tips for Leaving an Abusive Relationship
- Tips for Teens and Young Adults – How to Leave an Abusive Relationship
- Take a Stand Against Dating Violence (Healthy/Unhealthy Relationships)
- Youth Safety Plan
- Youth Resources (one-page support list)
- Teen Resources
- Take a Stand against Bullying: What is Bullying? What to do if are being bullied
- Signs Of Bullying: If your child is being bullied; If your child is a bully
- What Can Parents Do: If Your Child/ren is being bullied
- Seniors Safety Resources
- Working Together To Prevent Elder Abuse and Neglect
- Male Victims of Intimate Partner Violence
- Education/Public Awareness:
- Annual participation in National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women, December 6
- Annual participation in World Elder Abuse Awareness Day
- Annual participation in Anti-Bullying Day events in schools and community
- Presentations in local temples
- Displays in local libraries
- Liaising and networking with other local resources and professionals in the field to ensure that there is public awareness about the impact of violence and where people can go to get the help they need. Emergency Care Kits: The DOVE Committee has undertaken a project which will provide the member agencies with emergency care kits to give to women or men who are leaving an abusive relationship. Kits will also include personal care items and activities for the children.
DOVE Committee Members
Emergency Care Kits: The DOVE Committee has undertaken a project which will provide the member agencies with emergency care kits to give to women or men who are leaving an abusive relationship. Kits will also include personal care items and activities for the children.
- Canadian Federation of University Women (CFUW) North Delta/Surrey
- : 604.596.2149
- Options Community Services
- Delta/Surrey Community Corrections: 604.501.3292
- Delta North: 604.592.3700
Delta South: 604.948.7010
- Boys and Girls Club Community Services of Delta/Richmond: 604.591.9262
- Azure Place: 604.957.1556 – Delta Transition Home – Wings
Many thanks to the following sponsors for their generous donations towards our projects (this list covers donors for the last three years only):
• Boundary Bay Quilters Guild
• Knitting Sisters
• BC Lions & Eva BC
• Superstore – Surrey
• Daughters for the American Revolution
If you have questions about DOVE, email: DOVE at
Janice Hamel, MSW, RSW
Manager of Counselling Services
Pronouns - She/Her
Deltassist Family and Community Services Society
Cell: 604-723-9505 Fax: 604-594-3496