Episode 79

This episode of the Bend Don't Break podcast features a role reversal, with Brian Willis of the Excellence in Training Academy interviewing Neil Dubord, about the lessons and insights gained from the first 70 episodes of Bend Don't Break. The podcast explores the resilience of first responders, touching on critical incidents, mental health challenges, and strategies for overcoming adversity.

Key Themes Discussed:

1. Origin of the Podcast:
   Neil shares how the Bend Don't Break podcast started as a Delta Police Department initiative, inspired by the need to reduce stigma around mental health and tell authentic stories of resilience. The podcast focuses on sharing personal experiences to help others navigate their challenges.

2. Hope and Personal Accountability:

   • A recurring theme across episodes is the importance of maintaining hope during difficult times.
   • Resilience often begins when individuals embrace accountability and take ownership of their journey toward recovery. Phrases like "embrace the suck" and "own it" encapsulate this mindset.

3. Building Support Systems:

   • Peer support emerged as a vital factor in recovery. Simple gestures, such as a text or call, can foster optimism.
   • Neil highlighted the CareTrack program in Delta, which ensures ongoing connection with officers on leave to prevent feelings of isolation.

4. Proactive Resilience Strategies:

   • Establishing wellness plans early in careers, including routines for fitness, financial literacy, and mental health, can prepare individuals for future challenges.
   • Neil emphasized integrating resilience training into regular shifts, advocating for "a little, a lot"—small, consistent doses of training on mental health and personal wellness.

5. Navigating Identity and Transition:

   • Losing the professional identity tied to being a first responder can cause significant mental health struggles. Supporting officers through these transitions, especially those who cannot return to active duty, is essential.

6. Lessons from the Field:

   • Recovery is not linear; it’s filled with ups and downs.
   • Small, incremental goals can lead to significant progress.
   • Spending time in nature, focusing on fitness, and maintaining routines can aid recovery.

7. Addressing Suicide in Law Enforcement:

   • Neil discussed the complexities of addressing suicides within agencies, balancing recognition for service with preventing a contagion effect. He stressed the need for open conversations, support for families, and proactive mental health programs.

8. Work-Life Harmony:

   • Neil challenged the notion of work-life balance, advocating instead for harmonizing priorities and being present in the moment—whether at work or home—without guilt.

Takeaways for First Responders and Leaders:

• Resilience is a Skill: It can be cultivated through habits, support systems, and proactive planning.
• Peer Support Matters: Strong connections, both formal and informal, are critical for recovery.
• Small Steps Build Momentum: Daily rituals and incremental progress are more sustainable than lofty, overwhelming goals.
• Leadership's Role: Leaders must foster open conversations about mental health, provide ongoing support for families, and prioritize wellness throughout careers.
• Self-Compassion: Officers must learn to be kind to themselves and allow grace during difficult times.